Saturday, January 14, 2017

A handout or a hand up?

This may become a little rant-ish, but I don't often do that so I'm giving myself permission to ponder today.  Here's the situation:
I have a couple of friends who are in the same profession as me.  We chat regularly and they sometimes ask me for advice about our profession - ideas, current thinking, resources to use and so forth.  And I don't mind sharing because I think that together we can all achieve more than we can as individuals.

But I've become aware that these friends of mine are using my work (again, don't mind that - no point sharing if you have to keep it a secret!) but taking credit as if it were their own.  And this I object to.
If I give you a planning template I'm really happy for you to use it if it makes your life easier and you don't have to reinvent the wheel.  But I do get peeved when I see it submitted as part of an appraisal and find that you're taking credit for creating it.

Am I wrong to feel this way?  I do use other people's ideas at work and in my business, but I always credit where I found them.  To me it is bordering on the dishonest to be any other way.
Maybe I'm wrong.  Maybe I'm too pedantic about this.
But I can't help the way I feel, and it taints my interactions with those friends.  In fact, I've stopped sharing with them both and I feel mean to behave in this way.

What do you think?  I do believe that we should give each other a hand up in life.  But to take those stepping stones and use them as a handout....?

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